feat(session-persistence-sqlite): second backend validating the abstraction

Add a SQLite SessionPersistence backend (node:sqlite), a SECOND
implementation built to prove the abstract seam + the shared
runPersistenceContract suite are genuinely backend-agnostic. Each
SessionEvent maps 1:1 onto an events row (session_id, seq, type, time,
data); append is an INSERT inside a transaction asserting the
contiguous-seq contract; the mutable SessionSummary lives in the
sessions metadata row.

It satisfies the SAME contract semantics as the JSONL backend, expressed
over rows instead of file bytes:
- Lazy materialization: create() records intent in memory; no row until
  the first append (a never-appended session is absent from has()/list()
  via a materialized flag set inside the first append transaction).
- Crash-tail-on-load: load() returns events only through the last
  complete turn/end and deletes the uncommitted tail; a seq gap in the
  committed region makes the session unloadable.
- Transactional append: a mid-batch failure (a UNIQUE seq collision from
  a concurrent writer) rolls back entirely, keeping the cursor truthful.

Like the JSONL backend it is also the write-path plugin (session/event →
buffer → session/flush drain, onCreated seed/adopt/collision handling,
HMR seeding, dispose-to-quiescence). The package runs the shared
runPersistenceContract suite plus SQLite-specific tests (transaction
rollback, crash-tail cut, schema version, HMR adoption).

Docs flip every "SQLite is future/deferred" reference (ADR 0016,
architecture.md, the persistence module doc + README) to "implemented;
the contract holds both backends to identical semantics".

docs/adr/0016-session-persistence.md

@@ -19,7 +19,7 @@ Key choices recorded here because they are durable, contested, and surprising:
 
 - **The canonical durable log persists every `SessionEvent` verbatim, including `assistant/chunk`.** `deriveMessages()` skips chunks, and a chunk-filtered rollout (Codex's `policy.rs`) is tempting — but `seq = log.length` and the load-validation `events[i].seq === i` require a *contiguous* log; filtering chunks out would leave holes and break both the contract and resume. A chunk-filtered projection is possible later as a derived view with its own renumbering, but it is NOT the canonical log.
 - **Append-only with a single exception.** Committed events — those at or below a flushed `turn/end` — are never rewritten. The loop only flushes at `turn/end`, so a crash can leave a half-written final turn below the last checkpoint; `load` returns events only up to the **last complete `turn/end`**, and the first post-load `append` runs a one-time **truncation-repair** (`ftruncate` + `fsync`) that physically discards only that never-committed crash tail before writing.
-- **File backend canonical, DB backend a drop-in.** `SessionEvent` maps 1:1 onto a row `(session_id, seq, type, time, data)` — `append` is INSERT (in a transaction asserting the contiguous-seq contract), `load` is SELECT … ORDER BY seq. A future `dsh-session-persistence-sqlite` is a `SessionPersistence` subclass with no interface change (opencode runs this exact shape on SQLite/WAL).
+- **File backend canonical, DB backend a proven drop-in.** `SessionEvent` maps 1:1 onto a row `(session_id, seq, type, time, data)` — `append` is INSERT (in a transaction asserting the contiguous-seq contract), `load` is SELECT … ORDER BY seq. `dsh-session-persistence-sqlite` is exactly this: a `SessionPersistence` subclass with no interface change (opencode runs this exact shape on SQLite/WAL), and it passes the same `runPersistenceContract` suite as the JSONL backend — so the contract holds both backends to identical semantics (lazy materialization, crash-tail-on-load, contiguous-seq), expressed once over file bytes and once over rows.
 - **Metadata is out-of-log.** Format version, cwd, and lineage are storage concerns, not replayable conversation state, so they live in a `SessionMeta` (`SessionHeader & SessionSummary`) owned by `dsh-session` and attached to a `Session` via a new readonly `session.header` — never in `SessionEventMap`, never reaching `deriveMessages()`. The alternative (a merge-extensible `session/meta` event as log line 0) was rejected: an in-log event would ride along with a seeded/forked session for free, but metadata is not replayable state, so the explicit out-of-log header seam is the cleaner cost.
 - **Resume is an async factory, not a change to synchronous create.** `ctx.agents.resume({ resumeSessionId })` awaits `ctx.sessionPersistence.load`, recreates the live session with the loaded events (so `lastTurnNumber`/`deriveMessages` continue), and starts a fresh agent on the resumed id (NOT `${agentId}-session`). The agent-loop does NOT hard-inject `sessionPersistence` (that would pend non-persistent demos forever); `resume` rejects with a typed error when it is absent.